It usually takes a few dates before you’re willing to buy her emerald jewelry, but if you decide to, chances are she’s worth it. But if you’re unsure, there’s no rush. Here are a few tips to help you know that she’s worth gemstone rings.

You don’t make each other jealous. Jealousy is a red flag that never winds up well.

You were raised similarly. This may sound vague and it is, but if you’ve ever had a talk about the differences in how you were raised, i.e. the things you’re used to in character  not being what she’s used to in a person, perhaps you don’t have what it takes to make it work long-term.

You share the same politics. This is by far the most subjective tip on this list, but you know that when you share political views, you are working from the same foundation. Usually that foundation is strong enough to support a long-term relationship.

Of course there’s nothing wrong with buying emerald jewelry for the one you love, even when you know or don’t care whether it’s going to work in the long run. If you’re buying gemstone rings to celebrate the moment, so be it. Just don’t ask for them back.